Hello, My real name is not "Emma', It is the name of my favorite character in my favorite book. That said everything else I've stated below is true and as brutally honest as possible, because if I get married it is for the long haul and I most certainly do not want to end up in a divorce court or worse off.
So here is a little bit about myself. I come from a typical South Indian Sadar Lingayath family. I love my job, I have always enjoyed working and I believe I will almost always work, except maybe when I am vacationing or life events get in the way. I have done my graduation in Journalism and post-grad in English Literature. I currently work for a well known MNC.
I have an average build with wheatish-to-reddish complexion. I lean on the heavy side but not in an unsightly manner - pretty lookable I think. Photos will be shared upon request only.
I do have the "lazy eye" problem in my left eye but it is not quite obvious unless you are paying keen attention to my eyes only.
My office colleagues describe me as a very positive, confident, approachable, friendly generous person. My best friends describe me as extremely generous, warm, fun to be with and someone they can trust their life with. My extended family describes me as an ice-queen, who does not call and spill everything that is happening in my life but trustworthy. My immediate family trusts me implicitly and know I will step up and do the right thing when occasions arise. Personally Id describe myself as someone who is fun, loving, friendly and yes am very caring about people who are important to me.
I am a good sport too. I am usually the ___ of jokes in office and when I meet with friends... but I also know how to give it right back when the jokes cross a certain line.
I love reading, writing, watching TV; and when chance affords - I travel - believe me I have travelled quite a bit for someone of my age and resources and the inevitable "family heritage". My partner in life should be willing to travel to weird places such as Ulaan Bator or Taklamakan/Gobi desert :)
About reading its one of the things I am most passionate about. I have a pretty decent personal library which I am very proud of. I used to read a lot of fiction, but these days I find myself reading non-fiction increasingly. Topics range from history, to philosophy to general management or whatever catches my fancy at the book store. I also blog about the books I read and some of the TV shows which I loved or hated. I also generalize and write about events that have happened in my life and which have moved me to feel extreme emotions. I also have a private blog where I write poetry and certain blog posts with no names masked, venting what I feel at that time anger, hate, love - whatever.
In TV shows, I enjoy watching crime/detective series, both the fun kind (Castle, mentalist) or the serious kind (Criminal Minds, Law & Order:CI). Also, I would rather download/buy DVD and watch the series instead of sitting in front of the TV for hours on end. Movies - only English in theatres..cant bring myself to sit for three hours in a movie hall for regional language shows.
Food - I do not like cooking per se, but interestingly I like cleaning and chopping up veggies and cleaning up after the cooking is done. My mom did warn me that I have learnt all the wrong things. Apparently I can always hire someone to do all this; according to her, I should have learnt to do all the other stuff - like adding
the right amount of masala's in proportion to the vegetables and/or people served etc.
So, as you can imagine, I am very good at tossing up salads and not so much the typical South Indian fare
of Chapathi-Subzi-Sambar-rice. I am willing to experiment food from any region of the world, as long as it is vegetarian. I also occasionally have eggs and egg based food (such as cake) but only outside of home.
My parents are on the orthodox side. My younger brother was the first to get married. He married outside of our community and left home when he made the decision to marry outside the community. And then my elder brother got married - the traditional way, my parents found a girl for him within the community this time and he is happily married now.
So, now apparently my time to get married has come, according to my parents' favorite astrologer - yayy! for me - I guess.
We are a close-knit family, sometimes extended family included... however, personally I am not the social type. I do not enjoy big weddings, big festivals... you get the idea...any big family celebrations in general. It is not that I do not like my family, it is just that there is a very high level of expectation to share too much about myself at these gatherings, and I am not comfortable doing that with everyone. Yes, it is a contradiction that I am sharing a lot about myself here. I am doing so to make sure I do not get interests from ever Tom, Joe etc. I want people to think through carefully before reaching out to me.
Financially, we are middle-to-upper middle class. However, whilst growing up we have been through a lot of financial hardship and so we are very aware of what it feels like to be on the lower rungs of the prosperity ladder.
I have a quirky family - I mean who doesn't? If you say you have a normal family - it only means you are
not paying much attention to each member of your family. You are looking at them as a whole - as one unit. Each member of my family is quirky in their own way, but each day we accept and enjoy the quirks of each other rather than trying to correct these quirks, after all, these quirks are what makes each of us different and unique... and special.
Religion: My father is very orthodox and my mother follows suit in most of these. However, my brothers and I are not so stringent in following all the rituals which our religion requires us to follow. We each have customized it and follow only those that hold meaning to us.
Few final thoughts and in a way my expectations from life: I am a big city girl and I always will be. I don't give a damn about who thinks what about me. I go after what I want, I do not believe in living off the charity of others. I believe in putting in the efforts myself to get what I want; even if it means making great sacrifices. For some of the things that I have achieved on my own, I haven't exactly had the blessings of my family - but I went ahead and did it anyways. And now they are super-proud of all the things that I have done so far.
My thoughts about marriage - Everybody gets married, right from the janitor of our office to the chairman and almost everyone in between; I don't think marriage should be made that big a deal. It should be a very simple private affair between two individuals and their immediate families.
Yes, children are an important part of life - but at the same time, having kids should not hold us back from going out and achieving what we are meant to achieve - god knows parents make more than enough sacrifices for their kids - I know mine did.
The important thing is to live without regrets. Despite having kids, I know it is possible to travel, write a book or work your ___ off to get that much-sought-after-promotion. Not just kids, I don't think anything is life should hold us back - from achieving what we want to achieve.
I believe we can always figure out life - not matter how bad the situation, there is always a positive side to it and always a way out - you just need to sit quietly for a few minutes and figure out.
Yes, in case you haven't figured out, I am very clear about what I want from life. If you didn't like any part of this - please do us both a favor, don't express interest and waste either of our time.
Thanks for reading through till the end, in case we are not meant to be - sincere best wishes for finding your special partner in life...
Basics & Lifestyle
5' 4" (162cm)
English, Hindi, Kannada
2 of which married 2
Upper Middle Class
Education & Career
Masters - Arts
INR 10 Lakh to 15 Lakh
Software Professional (Others)
Hobbies, Interests & more
Photography, Solving Crosswords, Puzzles
Blogging, Listening to music, Reading / Book clubs, Travel / Sightseeing, Writing
Blues, Christian / Gospel / Blue Grass, Classical - Opera, Classical - Western, Country Music, Instrumental - Indian, Instrumental - Western, Jazz, New Age Music, Old film songs, R&B / Soul, Soft Rock, Sufi music, Western Country Music, World Music
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