I am looking for a guy who is liberal and open-minded, and for whom the religion, caste, nationality, past relationships, profession and qualification of his partner do not matter. They don't to me.
I would be interested in a man who has a mind of his own, and who lives his life in a way that HE thinks is right, and that makes sense to him.
More importantly, I would like someone who is sensitive, kind, patient, and humble. I am usually attracted to people who are calm, relaxed and composed by nature, rather than the aggressive, hyper-active sorts.
Even though we are asked to list the qualities of the person we are looking for, as u may know, there are many other factors that eventually come to matter. We may end up being very happy with someone who has very few of the qualities we initially thought we were particular about.
If you are a feminist its more likely that you and I will work out. I am making a point to mention this because, in the past I have had a problem with my ex-es (and with most men in India for that matter) mainly because I've had to keep aside my feminist ideas in order to make the relationship work. That obviously wouldn't and didn't work.
If you are not liberal in your thinking, you will be wasting your time by contacting me. (The word liberal is often misused on these websites. Just to give you an example, there are guys especially those living in the West, who claim they are liberal/modern, but in the section on partner preferences, they would opt only for the 'never married' women.)
I realize Ive only been going on about the kind of person I want rather than tell you the kind of person I am. Who I am is more or less the same as what I am looking for in my partner. Let me just list a few adjectives that I would use to describe myself: sensitive, passionate, thoughtful, friendly, humble, kind, independent (in thinking), feminist. I always stand up for what I believe is right. I am interested in studying people, societies, culture and why people behave the way they do. I love dance and music. I find inspiration from the most unlikely people and places. Id like to think I am a calm, relaxed person (though I am not sure if I really am), but I definitely gravitate strongly towards such men and women. (people like the fictional Michael Scofield in the tv series Prison Break, if you know what I mean)
My background, in a nutshell:
I grew up in Bangalore, lived most of my life there. I used to be a journalist for about 5 years. I then went to London School of Economics for my masters (in Gender, Development & Globalisation), worked as a lecturer in Gender Studies at Asian University for Women, an international liberal arts university, in Chittagong (Bangladesh) for a bit, and then moved back to India and am now working at Manipal Institute of Communication, Manipal, as Assistant Professor. I am planning to do (and seriously working towards doing) my Phd in Sociology in the US, starting fall of 2014, which would go on for a minimum of 5 years after which I hope to work and settle down in the US. (am therefore looking for someone living in the US rather than in India). Given that location is a huge factor in finding partners, I know it makes more sense to start the partner search after I know which city in the US my Phd will take me to. However, since Id know that only a year from now, Ive started the search nevertheless, telling myself you never know whats in store for us. I like Yoga (I am a part-time yoga instructor), dancing, swimming, playing the piano, watching movies, TV series (House, 24, XFiles, prison break, commander-in-chief, west wing etc ... when it comes to tv series I should confess my behavior borders on addiction) listening to osho's talks (i agree with almost everything he has said. it's another thing that i am unable to fully follow his teachings). I fancy martial arts and female action heroes. I like the un-rushed way of living, where every moment can be enjoyed thoroughly. I like everything slow and dislike anything fast. I love staying at home, in my pajamas and watching a movie/tv show with or without company.
I admire people who listen to their hearts and have the courage to pursue their passion despite pressures and difficulties, for whom money is nothing more than a tool to do the things one really wants to do.
Just one more thing: When I browse profiles, the first thing i do, even before i see the MCQ type info, is read the first few lines of this section (where you write about yourself), and if it starts with a I have completed my XYZ degree in ABC from PQR university...", I usually skip the profile, coz a profile thats more like a CV doesnt help me get to know you, even at a preliminary level. No offense to those who've chosen to focus on those aspects. But my point is that I am more interested in reading/knowing about what kind of a person you are, and what kind of person you are looking for, rather than simply your educational and professional achievements. (However I do understand why most men prioritise such info).
Anyway, some other stuff in men's profiles that makes me skip it are things like 'i have a mix of modern/western and traditional values' or 'looking for a 'simple' woman with strong family values/indian values/mix of traditional and modern values, mix of western and eastern values etc. If you and i ever get to talk/meet, will explain why i feel the way i feel about these things.
And of course if you've written nothing or almost nothing, i definitely skip the profile.
I wish you all the best. Hope you find your partner soon.
Thank you for reading my profile.
Basics & Lifestyle
5' 3" (160cm)
No Health Problems
English, French, Hindi, Kannada, Tamil, Telugu
Bangarpet, Kolar district
1 of which married 1
Education & Career
Masters - Arts
Dont want to specify
Hobbies, Interests & more
Driving, Health & Fitness, Listening to music, Movies, Shopping, Sports - Indoor, Sports - Outdoor, Watching television, Yoga / Meditation
Business / Occupational, Magazines & Newspapers, Philosophy / Spiritual, Romance
Love all kinds of movies
Cycling, Swimming / Water sports, Yoga / Meditation
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