SH86221188 
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Age / Height
:
32 / 5' 3" (160cm)
Marital Status
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Divorced (No Children)
Education
:
Masters - Arts
Profession
:
Professor
Religion
:
Hindu
Mother Tongue
:
Tamil
Community
:
Reddy
Location
:
Karnataka, India
IN THEIR OWN WORDS
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Partner Preference

In their own words
  • I am looking for a guy who is liberal and open-minded, and for whom the religion, caste, nationality, past relationships, profession and educational qualifications of his partner do not matter. They don't to me.

    I would be interested in a man who has a mind of his own, and who lives his life in a way that HE thinks
    is right, and that makes sense to him. I am usually attracted to people who are calm, relaxed, composed, sensitive, kind, compassionate, patient and humble.

    Even though we are asked to list the qualities of the person we are looking for, as you may know, there are many other factors that eventually come to matter. We may end up being very happy with someone who has few of the qualities we initially thought we were particular about.

    If you are a feminist it's more likely that you and I will work out. I am making a point to mention this because, in the past I have had a problem with my ex-es (and with most men in India, for that matter) mainly because I've had to keep aside my feminist ideas in order to make the relationship work. That obviously wouldn't and didn't work.

    If you are not liberal, you and I are unlikely to work out. (The word liberal is often misused on these websites. Just to give you an example, there are guys, especially those living in the West, who claim they are liberal / modern, but in the section on partner preferences, they would opt only for the 'never married' women.)

    Who I am is more or less the same as what I am looking for in my partner. Let me list a few adjectives that I would use to describe myself: sensitive, passionate, thoughtful, friendly, kind, independent. I always stand up for what I believe is right. I am interested in studying people, societies, culture and why people behave the
    way they do. I find inspiration from the most unlikely people and places. I would like to think I am a calm, relaxed person (though I am not sure if I really am), but I definitely gravitate strongly towards such men and women (people like the fictional Michael Scofield in Prison Break, if you know what I mean).

    I grew up in Bangalore, lived most of my life there. I used to be a journalist for about 5 years. I then went to London School of Economics, UK, for my masters (in Gender, Development & Globalisation), worked as a lecturer in Gender Studies at Asian University for Women, an international university, in Chittagong
    (Bangladesh) for a bit, and then moved back to India and am now working at the School of Communication, Manipal University, as Assistant Professor since two years.

    I am likely to do my PhD in the US soon, if all goes as planned, that is. Given that location is an important factor in finding a partner or building a relationship, this is something we can discuss and sort out before
    we invest time getting to know each other.

    I like doing Yoga (am a certified yoga instructor), dancing salsa, swimming, playing the piano, watching TED
    talks, movies and TV series (House, 24, X-Files, Prison Break, Commander-in-Chief, The West Wing, The Good Wife and Sherlock are some of my favourites). When it comes to TV series I should confess my behavior borders on addiction.

    I am an OSHO fan. I agree with almost everything he has said. It's another thing that I am unable to follow his teachings fully. I fancy martial arts and female action heroes. I love staying at home, in my pajamas and watching a movie/TV show with or without company. I could go on about my food habits, exercise regimen etc but I won't, coz it doesn't matter to me if my partner and I are similar in these aspects. I'd like us to match ideologically more than in the way we spend our time.

    I like the un-rushed way of living, where every moment can be enjoyed thoroughly. I like everything slow and dislike anything fast. I admire people who listen to their hearts and have the courage to pursue their passion despite pressures and difficulties, for whom money is nothing more than a tool to do the things one really wants to do.

    Just one more thing: When I browse profiles on such websites, the first thing I do, even before I see the MCQ type info, is read what you've written about yourself. If it has only your educational and professional background (more like a CV) I usually skip the profile, coz it does not help me know what kind of a person you are, not even enough to decide whether to express interest or not.

    No offense to those who've chosen to focus on those aspects. But my point is that I am more interested in reading/knowing about what kind of a person you are, and what kind of person you are looking for, rather than simply your educational and professional achievements. However I do understand why most men prioritise such information.

    And of course if you've written nothing or almost nothing, I usually skip the profile.

    I wish you all the best. Hope you find your partner soon. Thank you for reading.

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Basic Info
    • 32 / 5' 3" (160cm)
    • Divorced (No Children)
    • Wheatish / Athletic
    • India
    • Occasionally Non-Veg
    • Occasionally
    • No
    • Leo
    • No Health Problems
Religious Background
    • Hindu
    • Reddy
    • Not Specified
    • Tamil
    • English, French, Hindi, Kannada, Tamil, Telugu
Astro Details
    • No
Family Details
    • Retired
    • Homemaker
    • Liberal
    • Bangarpet, Kolar district
    • 0
    • 1 of which married 1
    • Liberal
    • Not Specified
Education And Profession
    • Masters - Arts
    • Professor
    • Dont want to specify
    • Private Company
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Location
    • India
    • -, Karnataka
    • India
    • Citizen
Interests and more
    • Dancing
    • Driving, Health & Fitness, Listening to music, Movies, Shopping, Sports - Indoor... more
    • Business / Occupational, Magazines & Newspapers, Philosophy / Spiritual, Romance
    • Love all kinds of movies
    • Cycling, Swimming / Water sports, Yoga / Meditation
    • North Indian, South Indian
    • 30 to 41
    • 5' 9"(175cm) to 6' 3"(190cm)
    • Not Important
    • Hindu, Christian, Sikh, Jain, Spiritual - not religious, Other... more
    • Not Important
    • India, USA
    • Don't include profiles who smoke
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