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Flex and Tone your Profile

Literature often says, 'first impressions are last impressions'. In the online matrimonial context, there are no truer words. For here, you are not meeting the concerned person but are counting on your profile to represent the true you.

So think about it. Does your profile represent the true you? Does it reflect who you are, what you believe and what you want? If not, perhaps it's time to get cracking on shaping up your profile.

Creating a 'Good' online profile is really simple. Here are a few tips to help you get started!

  1. Follow the format requested
  2. Choose the correct Option
  3. Give adequate information ... briefly
  4. Let your profile reflect your Personality
  5. Check Grammar and Spellings
  6. Put your Photograph
  7. Get a Second Opinion
Good luck with your Partner search !

  Profile Tips
  1. Follow the format requested
    Most online dating and matrimonial sites have a preset format in which you are requested to enter your profile. It is important that you stick to the format as closely as possible and give as much information as possible.

    A comprehensive site like Shaadi.com will generally have two parts to a profile - a structured, multiple choice part where all you need to do is choose the category that you fit in from a list of predefined categories (Eg: Category: Marital Status; Options: Never Married, Divorced, Widowed, Awaiting Divorce, Annulled) and an unstructured, essay part where you are given ample space to talk about yourself and your family, your aims, aspirations and expectations. The more closely you follow the format the greater your chances of showing up in the desired search criteria and the more likely you are to 'meet' people who match your requirements.

  2. Choose the correct Option
    In addition to providing adequate detail it is also important to provide CORRECT details. When provided with a multiple set of options be careful and read all the options provided before you choose the one that applies to you.

    Eg: If the Category is 'Religion', then you will have options like Hindu, Hindu – Agrawal, Hindu – Arora, Hindu – Bengali etc. Make sure you choose Hindu – Bengali if that's what you are and NOT just Hindu. Choosing a broader option means that it becomes more difficult for you to get relevant matches.

    The reason that a good site will include 'Hindu' as part of the list is only because with the regional and religious diversity in India it is quite impossible to actually have a comprehensive list of all castes and communities. Also, if you find that your caste/community is not represented in the list then write in to the customer support. Sites like Shaadi.com regularly update their lists based on customer requests.

  3. Give adequate information ... briefly
    This advice is applicable to the essay part of the profile where you are given free space to talk about yourself. The best way to handle this part is to touch upon various aspects of your life without going into too much detail. Eg: If you are talking about your educational background you can simply mention that you have an MBA from IIM, Ahmedabad without going into complete details about where you did your schooling, graduation and post-graduation from and how well you scored. Of course you can touch upon achievements like graduating with honors but don't go into nitty-gritty at this stage. There will be plenty of time for that later.

    Some topics you can touch upon
    • Your educational and professional background and achievements.

    • Your family (how many members, joint or nuclear).

    • Your current status in life and future plans

    • Your expectation from a soulmate.

  4. Let your profile reflect your Personality
    Not an easy thing to do but well worth the effort. When writing your profile, think that you are speaking to an individual. Pretend there is someone across the table and talk to that person. Don't just write, "I am a graduate from IIT Kanpur". Instead say something like you would in real life, "I studied at IIT Kanpur, and it was one of the best/worst experiences I had". In addition to facts, try and state in a few words how you feel about those facts. Also, if you pretend that you are talking to an actual person while writing your profile, chances are your personality will show in the way you write. Eg: If you have a sense of humour, or are a modest person by nature, or are an outgoing person – it will all be reflected in your profile. This is what makes the profile interesting to read.

  5. Check Grammar and Spellings
    Boring, but unavoidable. Make sure you check your grammar and spellings for two reasons. Firstly, you don't want the reader to think you don't know how to spell and that you have poor English. And secondly, it may imply to some people that you are not serious enough about finding a partner and cannot be bothered to spend the extra time and effort it takes to correct a few errors. Remember that Internet phrases like 'LOL' (for "lots of love"), and ' :o)' (smiley face) are perfectly acceptable. In fact, their usage may indicate how net savvy you are. ;o)

  6. Put your Photograph
    I cannot lay enough stress on how important this is. It is the single most important factor that can increase the number of responses you receive up to more than 7 times! So PUT YOUR PHOTOGRAPH online NOW. More about publishing your photo online.

  7. Get a Second Opinion
    Sometimes others see things we don't notice. If you can, get someone close to you to read your profile. Ask them whether your profile reflects the true you. If yes, then Bingo! You've got a winner :o) If no, then get them to tell you what they think is missing, and edit your profile accordingly.

    Good luck with your partner search!